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Happiness is not always through success. Equally, the constant pursuit of success is sure unhappiness. But we have to find the balance. My own thoughts are that parenting is very personal. And we all feel enormous insecurity about parenting. What are they going to think of us 20 years down the line?

Kids raised to be pampered and spoiled don't really end up being good leaders. Leaders need to be independent minded and confident.

Questioning authority is, I think, a great thing to instill in children. I just didn't have enough of that when I was little.

It may be the optimist in me, but I think America has a uniquely powerful and capacious glue internally. The American identity has always been ethnically and religiously neutral, so within one generation you have Italian-Americans, Irish-Americans, Chinese-Americans, Jamaican-Americans - they feel American. It's a huge success story.

Real self-esteem has to be earned. I also believe in virtuous circles, like, nothing is fun until you are good at it. It is great if you can instill in children the ability to not give up, to have a work ethic.

A lot of parents today are terrified that something they say to their children might make them 'feel bad.' But, hey, if they've done something wrong, they should feel bad. Kids with a sense of responsibility, not entitlement, who know when to experience gratitude and humility, will be better at navigating the social shoals of college.

Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?

I do think that maybe, even subconsciously, a lot of parents in the West are wondering, have we gone too far in the direction of coddling and protecting - you know, you see kids, sometimes that seem very rude and disrespectful. And the more important thing is they don't seem that happy.

I was raised, myself, by extremely strict but also extremely loving Chinese immigrant parents. To this day, I believe that their having high expectations for me, coupled with love, was the greatest gift that anyone's ever given me. And so that's why, even though my husband is not Chinese, I try to raise my own two daughters the same way.

I sort of feel like people are not that honest about their own parenting. Take any teenage household; tell me there is not yelling and conflict.

Genghis Khan decreed religious tolerance for all of his conquered peoples. So I think he definitely would approve of our constitutional protections of freedom of religion. I think he would also approve of the way the U.S. has been able to attract talented people from all over the world.

A Western upbringing tends to stress questioning authority, which is always asking why, why, why.

Both of my girls have very high self-esteem because they were both able to master certain things; I should think that's good for their confidence.

Everything I do as a mother builds on a foundation of love and compassion.

I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition.

I say 'I love you' to my daughters every day.

I think if you're a 'tiger parent' early on, you don't need to be a 'helicopter parent' in high school.

I'm a slave to my dogs and go out with them almost every day. They are poorly behaved if they don't run. They really act up.

I'm willing to be different than other parents and go against the mainstream.

Instilling a sense of self-discipline and focus when the kids are younger makes it so much easier by the time they get into high school.